No it will come out eventually somewhere down the line, sometimes I think we are not equipped to cope.

No. I have 2 friends that traced their real parents down and it was a major disappointment both times. Has for your step dad can I just say...my current girlfriend has a child that is not mine but she is the center of everything we do. Beaches, playgrounds, picnics/etc. And I have friends who have children with their wives and don't do anything at all with them. They just play computers will their wives do all the "bringing up." Some people aren't cut out for it, which is a shame. They are missing out on the best part of having a family. Being biological related doesn't mean anything. It's the relationship that matters.

I do not trust my DNA to be floating around the world without me knowing what ppl are capable of doing with it. 🥴 😲

Dear CN...I am so relieved to read how you dealt with the knowledge. Thank you.

And, yet another one WILLINGLY giving their DNA away to the people who are stockpiling all our DNA so they can splice it into their own BEFORE THEY get exposed for the IMPOSTORS and FRAUDS they KNOW they are! And we wonder why DNA testing LITERALLY proved, in 2002 and 2012, that THESE people were NOT who they say they are...and then, COINCIDENTALLY, the country they "claim" as "their own" then BANNED any and all DNA testing, lol. Man, WHAT A COINCIDENCE YET AGAIN!!! *sarcasm*Stop doing these things. Who cares WHERE and WHOM you come from, all that matters is YOU know who YOU are based on ALL YOU KNOW.

I would do it

Busted. The truth is revealed.

My family is also my family.

My family is definitely my family.

At least you've scored another brother! I believe that there's always a deep emotional reason for both parties to share the 'why'Edited 11-Apr-25 22:28pm

My siblings are definitely my siblings, my mum definitely my mother and my dad definitely my father. My sister made the family tree using all the information available to her and using photographs going back to the 1800's and other documents dating back to the 1500's. No need to have my DNA done.

That emptiness of not knowing is only relieved with the truth. The truth always come out in the end and I hope it will set everyone free 🙏

After a couple of years got a call from someone claiming to e my half brother. I never knew I had one. It was by another woman who my real father left my mom for.We tried to have a relationship.But we grew up different and we parted our ways.

My husband and I both did a DNA test years ago because we both have blood diseases and wondered where they came from. In the beginning I had a few matches while my husband had loads but then England went into Covid lockdown and in only a few months I had 55000 matches. I found where both of my blood diseases came from but my husband is still none the wiser. It used to be great fun getting a new match and working out how we were related but now you have to pay so otherwise there is no way to work out how you are connected, which is a shame.

Yes I would totally do it …

Good for you! Well done. I've always hoped my narcissistic mother wasn't my mother!

Wow! Yes sometimes I had hoped I was adopted.😆

I'm glad for you. Yes your roller coaster did have its ups and downs.

No too much of a resemblance to each other

We all wonder as we go through life but it was pretty obvious when you looked at we four siblings that there was definitely a resemblance between us. I guess I didn't look any further than that and now there are only 2 of us alive me and my little brother with me 13 years older than him.

Wow what a story! I guess you know when ya know when it comes to these things. That must have been hard on your mum though. It's great that you found your biological family so that you're able to connect with them.

My sister had a different blood group to us (3 sisters) but she never wanted to find out. To her Dad was Dad and that was it. I had a neighbour who was adopted and had the best parents but she was curious and put her name on the internet system to find parents/children and it turned out her mother wanted to contact her. She and I had a long discussion and she decided to go for it and found out her mother was 15 when she fell pregnant. She was 40 when she found her and they have connected beautifully. Some are success stories though others not so much. Would I do it. I cannot say unless I was put in that position. It takes bravery to do and I think the outcome for you was positive. Good luck to you all.

I understand your need to know but it's important to realize you are likely not the only person whose life may be upset needlessly with any disclosure. There may be many reasons you weren't told, including your mother having been the victim of rape, incest or long-denied or hidden indiscretions. How badly you may need to resolve this has to be weighed against the hurt the truth may cause, wounds re-opened and marriages undermined.

Wow, you have to be pretty darn strong!!! This is why I am not doing this digging. Although I am not that old many of my close relatives are deceased and I feel I wouldn't be able to get the feedback or answers for me to fully understand the situations or actions which occured for the outcomes I nay find. Sometimes I think it's just not my business to know. To each his own, but a couple of my friends had to deal with these pop up situations and some where better than others dealing with it.

These stories are always are a mess I knew my father was dead but my sis was only 6 months old so they told her when we she was ! Stepfather was no gift

Why did you need to know, has it made a difference to your life?

Why does it matter in the first place?Edited 11-Apr-25 12:16pm

I always queried whether my mother was my mother. Can't do what you have done as no-one left to do a comparison with.

1pt.

I don't know if they still have them but we found some printed details in a huge book at a Council Library. One person they had all the details except my Great Aunty's name.

Accept what you are.

As an approximate 10 year old, my sister who was 13, told me our father was not our biological father. It devastated me at the time and I only got worse until I sobered up at 43 (24 years now). Let's just say it was a 33 year trip for me. I might add that my stepfather was a gift. But deep down the situation obviously troubled me. I finally met my biological father when I was around 35 and he still wanted nothing to do with me. At some point my mother did answer my question. So from 10 to 43 years of age, I used to think there was something wrong with me and the depression was why I turned to alcohol so I could be someone else. I am not completely healed but at least I am sober and alive.

interesting, as I'm very different to my siblings and I never connected to my father either, maybe I should do a DNA test

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That is amazing! Awesome that you found a brother but sad that your mother did not tell you the truth from the start. I suppose it was different back then and sometimes there are family secrets never spoken of. I feel happy for you that you finally know. xx

Wow. Everyone is different so people choose to do it some don’t it’s up to the individual

No, I wouldn't do it. No need.

HI JANN R---TY

I've never bothered lookng further back than my grand parent, I mean with names. I wouldn't remember them all. this stuff still happens like on the news this morning they where saying someone in brisbane (using technology they have these days to pay someone else to have your baby) gave birth to the wrong baby. How many other people might have been born like so? in the new system with out being reported. Like the eggs or sperm or embrios must have been mixed around in the hospital or the university. Now what happens with that baby now? Edited 12-Apr-25 11:13am

This has never happened to me I was close to my Dad and my Mum we had a great family life on our farm with my grand perants

Interested in how you found a blood brother. Through Ancestry or info from your parents/siblings? I was adopted and always thought I was a twin. No records are released from Germany where I was born in the 60's so the trail is cold and dead! Was told all my life I was adopted, but only when my adopted father died did my mother tell me she knew my real dad!!! But by the time she told me with what little info she had I found that he had already died as had his wife, and their only child. Being alone in this world with no connections really sucks so I'm thrilled for you.

I do not like roll coasters, especially emotional ones. Sounds like you found something worthwhile at the end of yours ... all the best to you, mb.

Good result, shame you didn't know earlier. Never had to think about doing this for myself. But would live to find My grandfathers family,never seen them ,only know his sisters first name. As well as my great grandfather on my mother's side,they were never spoken of by the adults,we knew not to ask.

Sorry about your not having a connection with your mothers husband.

Glad you found your missing piece. A lot of families have missing pieces. We don't know who my grandma's biological dad was as everyone who knew went to the grave without revealing the info. I can't find a copy of her birth certificate as whatever name I put in; nothing comes up. I've done my DNA on 2 sites and lots of cousins coming up but no relatives close enough on my dad's side to figure this out. We also now know that my grandfather wasn't my aunt's father but although there was always a rumor, she just accepted that Grandpa was her dad since he raised her. On my kid's dad side, their grand grandpa abandoned his family and disappeared, so their great grandma got an annulment and remarried. These things remain mysteries. I know I could pay $2000 to Ancestry to get at least one mystery solved, but that's a lot of money, so trying to do it myself before my dad dies.

I feel that it is really important to know the truth, no matter how good or bad it might be.

I have another perspective on this. It might be controversial. But here goes, I believe in reincarnation. I believe we pick our parents, siblings etc. to give us the best opportunities to learn our lessons. We may have karma negative or positive with members of our family. This is just one perspective.

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Agree with you. Although I knew I was adopted, I always felt there was a part of me missing. I loved my parents & had no wish to find the ones who didn't want me.In my mind I had a strong feeling that I had a brother. I never asked, as I didn't want to hurt my family. At age 20 I was engaged to be married, was told about a brother I had. We met & had such a strong bond, he was in my wedding. You did the right thing for you. Others who haven't been in the same situation, haven't a clue how it feels. So happy for you.

I never have felt that way until I reach my 40's. My siblings got sticks up there ass!! This is do to my free nature and that I have biracial children!

No need for me to do that in our family we are all very close and I have no doubts at all that my parents were true to us seven children.Edited 11-Apr-25 11:26am

You should ask the royal families if they'd do it.. not us normal folk. You'd be unpleasantly surprised.

I have no issues I consider the parents who raised me as Mum and Dad. No matter on genes unless genetic parents have something I need to know about

You must do what you must do~!!!

Wow

Ignorance is bliss. Messing with DNA is very risky . See the new Wolf Species aka Jurassic Park. Just being grateful is always best. But it's very difficult. We're only human.

Would I do what? I have done DNA but not for doubt.

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Glad you found your answers!

I have enough whanau without looking for more

You have to go with your gut feeling and if you are happy with the outcome -- that is all that matters!

WOW! I love watching Finding Your Roots on TV. It's so interesting. I found out in my 30's who and where my biological mom was, and got to spend 5 days with her. Then she was murdered. I long for the promised resurrection of the dead so I can see my mom again! ;-D

I am in my happy place at my age, no need to know more at this stage of life.

Glad everything turned out.

They say the bloodline connections of human beings are more than the roots of the tree

I remember back to the age of 2 and ALWAYS knew I was adopted. My parents even celebrated Adoption Day with me each year 13 days after my birthday! Always wondered about my birth family...but adoption really IS the ultimate/original disapproval.

So glad you found the answer you were looking for, and deserve. Enjoy your bonding relationship with your newfound brother. And forgive your mom. I'm sure it wasn't comfortable for her at all hiding the truth from you.

I would never use one of these. There are reports of peoples DNA being sold or provided to law enforcement, insurance companies and who knows who else, because privacy regulation of DNA is reportedly very loose.

truth always and glad you finally got..

Crazy!

It’s so sad if your not told the truth

No, I already have enough relatives I don't want to know. Also even though you may consent to privacy, law enforcement can get a warrant, if you post your results it voids your consent. There's enough invasion of privacy already, now please excuse me I have to find my tin foil hat...... it's here somewhere!!

Your situation is very similar to a case in America that I just read. The 60 year old man grew up looking nothing like his parents or siblings. He felt rejected because of that. Finally did a DNA test in his old age and found out the truth. He was accidentally switched at birth in the hospital because there were two McMahons being born 2 hours apart. He is now suing the hospital.Edited 11-Apr-25 01:39am

Wow! What a can of worms, there! You sound at peace with this um ... news, which is a great thing for you. I think I'd be more than slightly peeeeved at some folks, finding out what you have just found out, at that stage of life. But hey, glad you're ok with it. I can imagine it's been an emotional ride for you and your siblings - old and new! hope it continues to be just as interesting and exciting as you & yours can comfortably handle.

get over it geesh

I can't imagine going through that

Yes

I hope you now feel validated in your correct intuition and find your brother gives you a sense of family that was missing. Would have done the same with the DNA testing.