I’ve raised to boy’s on my own from 7 and 10 years old, and had little knowledge of parenting children or challenging behaviour, then I went back to school and completed a diploma in early childhood education. Our teaching practices were about teaching children how to manage their behaviour, everything has a consequence, for example, we did separate a child from the group if necessary, seated on a chair, a teacher beside them, however they could still see their peer’s playing, and fairly soon realised they wanted to be a part of the play! Having an egg timer works as well, the child hold’s it, which give’s them something to concentrate on while they calm themselves. Toddler taming by doctor Christopher Green, or books by Nigel Latta, if children are older, whatever you do, look after their self confidence…

if they do something bad just gave them time out at least for 10 minutes and then you talk to your child to find out what is on there mine.

It is the parent's responsibility to ensure that children know right from wrong. Yeah, I know, it may be old fashioned to scold a child, but just look at the delinquency rate of children as young as 10 (for goodness sake) that commit crimes. Not enough parental guidance and discipline!!

Better than a smacking.

Kids these days have no respect, not friendly and not enough time outs. When I was a kid, I had time out and I turned out okay. There is nothing wrong letting your kid know they did something wrong and put in time out. How are they going to learn. Sending them into time out also means no playing games and cellphones.

Spare the rod and spoil the child. Children today are rude spoilt and have too much say. In my time you were seen and not heard. You got the strap or sent to your room there was no time out which is ridiculous as I dont think it teaches children anything other than being deceitful and defiant.

Time out for the parent would work better...

I don't use it because my kids just think it's a game and it really doesn't do anything for them.

Time out is the best lesson.

I actually dint feel time out does anything for a child in the way of trying to get better behaviour. I did not use it myself

It works for the Jo Frost.

Frankley I think time out is a load of rubbish. However, all of my children disagree and have the time out, one has a blue chair in a corner. I was visiting my daughter one day when one of her children was sent for a time out. As he started to walk away he said "couldn't you just smack me and get it over and done with. I'd prefer it". So even the children think it's a load of rubbish.

I need time out .. Im so over my life

I'm not a parent. I quess there's nothing wrong with a time out, it could be neccessary. Still maybe if you give it more though on the circumstances something else like cleaning a room is a better punishment.

Personally, I think time out is not an unreasonable punishment if done calmly, time out should start at the age round about the age four. Time out should be done according to Age so 4 years old (4 Mins), the whole idea is to teach your child being punished and once time out is over to get them on one to one basis and explain why they were put there in the first place? to enforce discipline and what's not acceptably or even tolerated.

Absolutely, they need that time to thank God, they just had to sit and think, versus getting that butt woopin'!.

We all need a bit of time out. Will do more good than harm

Better to talk at their level and discover the block pain or discomfort that causes their naughtiness. Be then loving and supportive of their outcome and not so much your own.

Depending on the tenacity of the child, you could be trying to get him/her to sit down for days! Wrestling with the child is probably what the child is looking for--attention! Growing up, we learned from birth to respect our parents and all older people and to listen what they told us! We were too afraid to misbehave because we didn't get warning, we got smacked! It was NOT child abuse. There were things that were done to me a lot worse than that which impacted me to this day. Trust me, a smack on the butt wasn't one of them! Emotional and sexual abuse were much were and seemed to be ignored in those days! I say smack their ass from the time they are old enough to understand what it is for, AND explain to them after why you did it and that you still love them. You just don't like their behavior and won't tolerate it. They will learn that lesson quickly. It's much more about we displeased our parents than we got smacked! We always wanted to please them because we loved them! Kids need to love their parents, and the parents need to earn that love and show it in many, many way. Reward good behavior!

Children control you with time out. 7 Decades of experience show the new "DR" are not doctors at all. If children are misbehaving this much there is a deeper problem. Try it and see the child will find lots of way to have 'fun' while you are trying to punish. Have firm guidelines feom day one..

Well, since a slap on the behind is now child abuse, what else are you supposed to do to get the child's attention? The real question is "What's next?" Say the child doesn't want a time out. What do you do then? I think that if you believe that a child will think about what he/she has done wrong then I think you're giving the child's maturity level too much credit. The child just wants do do what they were doing, rather than what they should do. They understand that you are mean and unfair and they didn't do anything wrong in the first place. They will think of ways to "show you!" If you've got the patience, perhaps a cost benefit analysis will help. Explain to the child what was wrong with their behaviour and why it will cost them "X" number of minutes doing nothing. Then perhaps, some logic and learned maturity will will result in the necessary behaviour modification being accomplished and everyone can be happy.

Yes timeouts are beneficial for children and adults !

Spare the rod and spoil the child! I maybe old fashioned but a lot of kids these days seem to have the upper-hand or dont recognise wrong doings or value respect.

It is good to establish some kind good guidelines

There is nothing wrong with a time-out. It gives a naughty child a chance to think about what they've done. Time-outs always remind me of Supernanny, and how she used them for helping families with troubled kids.

I think time out is appropriate rather than smacking which your not supposed to do. Didn’t hurt me. Still loved and respected my parents

I came from the time when children were spanked for misbehaviour. Some of us became stronger but others, withered on the vine. I think a timed "time out" is reasonable but not one like I used to get "sit there and stay there until your father gets home." In later years I realized how unfair this was for my father.Tough day at work then told discipline was necessary!

i agree

I don't think a time out causes damage. The child cn be given time to go and relax, to think, to understand, to consider.

When my kids were little, I made them go sit on the bottom step of the stairs, in front of the closet which had a full mirror so they could think about what they had done. It usually was effective.

There is a place for it but you need to start at an early age.

When I was working behaviour management was something we always discussed . It's something I have seen used many times in care settings. Never used it myself. With younger children especially it's hard. I did what worked for me and what I felt was right in my heart. So if I was in a situation where this could be used I prefer redirection to a solitary relaxing activity so the child could calm down,then reinforce the behaviour that I wanted to see.The simpler the better,especially for young children. Most children just want to have fun,want people to like them. They don't really understand in the moment,that what they are doing is wrong. Sometimes it's a learnt behaviour. (Ever gad your child hit you,you say ouch,and they laugh). Imagine them doing that to another child. O.k. ,so I would say to them "we use gentle hands when we play " and gently touch their hand. Then afterwards give them opportunity to play with their friends and repeat those words watch their play and as soon as they display the behaviour I want tell them they are playing nicely with friends,and follow up with it. Older kids I prefer action and consequence (they must know the rules,) be given reminders. So I prefer pro active positive reinforcement. As I said most kids just want to have a good time and to be liked,so give them that opportunity,and tell th what you expect and reward good behaviour often.

Yes until they are ready to apologise

Yes, and think about recent actions

We all need time out to quietly consider things we may have done without thinking. I would still like to be able to put one of my sons on the naughty stool or in the corner from time to time but he is in his forties now and too big for me to make him do that. Edited 18-Mar-23 12:28pm

No0 damage the child has to learn that there are consequences of what they do and the earlier that they learn that the better off they will be.

Time out is not a punishment. Time out is an opportunity to diffuse a situation, and give all parties concerned time to bring the emotions down to a manageable level, think, then come back together and talk.

As long as not too long. As a kid my step dad went overboard

I used to put my kids in a time out, but they did not care because they new it was only for 15 minutes. Sending my daughter to her room helped and counting for my son helped.

Never had a time-out, got plenty of floggings though. Dad was a cruel man.

Yes.

Yes definitely ok!!!! I still get put on time out and I’m almost 50, lol.

Yes, I agree this is one form of 'punishment' that I agree with. I only once hit one of my girls and now my daughter did the same with our granddaughter with time out. She is now a teenager so this does not happen. I was never belted as a child however, learned with my own girls at a very early age, that hitting a child is more for the anger you feel and of no benefit to the child. Yes, that was the one occasion I did hit one of the girls. Never again.Edited 18-Mar-23 12:07pm

I sometimes put myself in timeout too lol

The attention seeking kids it works great , maybe the punishment should suit the kids personality. There has to be punishment for wrong doings , how else are they to learn.

I gave my kids time out you sometimes need to do it for discipline and peace of mind

Yes a great idea or counting to 5

If you can’t smack this is the only way to give real discipline

yes if it is in the appropriate way, they have to learn a lesson

yes its appropriate and anytime they are misbehaving

I never had time out as a kid or my own kids we where sent to do a job outside and that helped us my kids where the same and it inproved with age

i was brought up in the 50 and if i did some thing wrong a slap on the bum soon put that right to day we molycuddle them treat them as adults no my grand kids no when they push the wrong button i don,t hit them but i warn them i will count to 5 and look out never got to 5

Does it help an adult to do that? Maybe removing yourself from a situation is helpful. It is important that the child is heard calmly about what is troubling them to cause the unacceptable behaviour. How do you learn if you don't understand what you have done wrong?

Time out should be age related. One minute for every year as a rule of thumb.

Kids need to know that behaviors have consequences

A short time out to cool off is often very useful. But I would say no longer than 5 to 10 minutes

Yes better than hitting with a wooden spoon.

Yes its ok, I used to put my children in time out. They used that time to think about what they had done wrong. Then they would apologise

I would sit my children in time out if their behavior required it and when they were able to come and tell me why they were put there and what should they be doing differently they were able to get off the little chair. Rather this method then hitting children.

I found it a great way to diffuse a situation and any excess anger, we have the silly corner, the person in the corner can get off anytime once they have figured out what they have done wrong, our chair is a recliner and I quite often put myself on the char when I need sleep, you can hear the kids say has pop been naughty

I don't know. I didn't get time out, I got my butt beat. I also got mental abuse from the other parent. My self worth was damaged more by the mental abuse. I felt like I deserved to be treated like dirt for a very long time and so that is what I allowed.

It is better than getting the wooden spoon across the back of my leg

I used to be in time out all the time when I was younger especially in elementary school based on my bad behavior.

I found time out worked well for both me and my children as it gave us the space to calm down and then talk about what had happened.

It’s a part off life.thay have to learn.

Each child has to be taught how to behave with different methods

yes

Up to the person what think is right. Do as your heart say

I used to use the "naughty corner" all my kids have ended up ok-all great parents contributing to their communities. Time out is the new PC way of doing the same thing. I never put my kids in the bedroom as that should be their sanctuary. Some things, sorry, still require a quick sharp slap. Kids need to be taught boundaries, self worth as well as for every action there is a consequence, as they mature into thinking humans they can decide if they want the consequence

Depends on the situation, sometimes effective to have a break away from a situation, BUT other times the child might be sitting there hating on the other kid that caused them to be put in time out, stewing that they missing out on fun and so in the latter case would be building up / bottling up emotion, so the end result could be worse because of the "time out"

Looks like theses days I see too many people with overvalued self worth. Also too many people tend to blame their parents of everything starting with "Why did you give me birth without being able to provide me with everything in this world throughout my high worth life?"

I know parents who’ve done this. I have never done this myself but don’t disapprove of other parents who do.

most of the time i feel i need time out more than the child...perhaps we should both sit down and have huggies and share a w(h)ine

Time out is a necessary follow through. If a child never receives any punishments for unwanted behaviour then they will not know the difference. If parents only make threats and never follow through then the child has no respect for the parent.

My kids needs this they both 3 years😉

I think time out is good as long as you end it with a conversation with the child about what they did and why it was wrong and ask them what they could do differently next time. I think just putting them in a time out for the sake of it won't work

As an aside; what do you think about all the so-called "disorders" now being used as excuses for many anti-social activities? About a year ago, I read of one which seemed to sum up how ridiculous a lot of them are: a child was described as suffering from "oppositional defiance disorder". Could it be that he just didn't like being told what to do? I certainly hope he doesn't decide on a career in the forces!

Wait. The Politically Correct numbnuts deemed smacking was "bad" and now time out is deemed "bad" as well?? No wonder we've got 10 year olds with hammers robbing liquor stores and 14 year olds doing ram raids late at night ... there's absolutely zero penalty for doing something bad. :-\ There's absolutely nothing wrong with a sensible smack on the backside (and no, that's not the same as beating the kid with a weapon).

Time out or taking away privileges is a good way to get a child’s attention. It there is no discipline, kids will grow up to be selfish, narcissistic adults.

To be effective, discipline needs to be immediate.

Time out is just a soft way of discipline. We learned the hard way but nowadays the way our parents disciplined us won't work so it depends

Yes, sometimes kids need time to relax and recover in a quiet corner with a soft beanbag and some soft toys

Everyone must learn that all actions have consequences. This form of punishment is very mild indeed when compared to previous generations. Best to learn life lessons as early as possible.

The time-outs I gave my kids when they were small, were useful to them as well as to me- it's more fruitful and kind to talk through things calmly afterwards. I grew up with the principle that every bad behaviour must be checked or we may reap bad consequences. So, I didn't like to send them to their rooms as it was harder to see if they're actually reflecting properly or just relaxing. Each family will figure this out as they go, but I still think it's best to keep them even closer when they act testy/rude- they're simply small and untutored!😊

I've never experienced, nor enforced a timeout on anybody. No child under my care has given me such problems.

I think it’s just fine to put kids in timeout. It gives them time to think about what they did and helps teach patience.

ABSOLITELY ITS BETTER THAN I USED TO GE A SPANKING OR I COULDNT GO OUT SIDE OR NO TV OR BNO GOING OUTSIDE FOR A DAY OR 2 OR 7

Worked great for my kids when thy were little.

Every child responds differently. If it works then fine but should only be used sparingly. One has to find consequences for misbehaviour. Teach manners, how to behave, good sportsmanship, respect, etc. all has to be part of good parenting. Yelling is not a good option as I always say when people yell I cannot hear them. It just becomes noise. I do get a bit tired of kids getting away with misbehaviour and Mum or Dad saying "now Johnny, that is not how we behave" or whatever. The kid usually smirks and plays up more I have found. There has to be consequences and yes round the table discussions might help as they get older but not when they are young. I never put my kids in the corner as I thought it was demeaning. They were sent to their room to settle down and if warranted then told the consequences of their actions albeit not when toddlers etc. Common-sense is needed but it is hard work which can be frustrating to a parent. I am glad my time as a parent to children is done and dusted.Edited 18-Mar-23 10:24am

Why did I think this had to do with survey time outs it’s like I can’t pour coffee or anything not necessary without getting timed out

I have worked with challenging behaviours and have seen some bad places for time out. It works if done properly. What ever you do, don't make it cruel or degrading.

It's a great way to settle them down if they are hot and bothered or upset and angry about something not going their way. When they have 'cooled down' sufficiently, then you can calmly discuss the who, what, when and why with them. You can help them to understand, that even if their reaction was justified, it didn't really help the situation. If it's because of naughtiness or plain nastiness, they learn about consequences. Bad behaviour = bad consequences, good behaviour= good consequences. So it's a form of discipline without agression, which is never justified. Just remember that when they listen and behave like a perfect angel after some time out, thank and commend them for putting into practice the lesson they learnt and highlight the future benefits for doing so. Then, optionally, a Maccas icecream cone or some other treat will reinforce the benefits of being good. Edited 18-Mar-23 00:56am

Kids need rules and boundaries time outs are good

Don't know because I never had a child (however, I survive LOUSY parenting and LOUSY parenting had a negative effect on me - for the rest of my life) - still - reads like a pertinent question for a child psychologist to be asked - based on your child (mis)behavior! However, I do know (from personal experiences - with me being a 'guinea pig' - my parents feeble attempts to change my behavior by using unsound child psychology tactics) that temporarily stop-gap measures (example: time out) for changing a child behavior do not have long term lasting effect - you have to get to the 'root' of the problem/issue!Edited 18-Mar-23 10:34am

Depends on a lot of things. The age of the child, their personality (like is it actually going to be traumatising if they are clingy or neurodiverse) the duration of the time-out, whether it’s done with a rational, age appropriate explanation for the time out, or a screaming parent slamming doors behind them. Sometimes you’ve got to show your child that there are consequences for bad behaviour, but the way you do that depends on you, your child and what works for them. Best bit of advice that I got was when they do something wrong, don’t say ‘bad boy’ say ‘that was a bad thing to do’ Point out exactly what they are doing wrong, why they shouldn’t do it, and what they should’ve done instead. Always define the behaviour as bad, not the child.

I HAVE PUT MY GRIL IN TIME OUT A LOT THEY NEED IT

I never had kids, but I would def. put them in a "time out" if they were misbehaving. When I was a kid I'll admit my Mon gave me the slipper once! hahaha!!!