After answering a discussion about marriage, I decided to start a discussion about independence after years of codependency. I have been in many toxic relationships, never a good one. I've been single for 3 years now, and I'm thinking about dating again, but I'm not ready to give up my independence. It seems like I only attract toxic people, so I'm very leary. It also seems like guys always want to rush into things. If you find yourself relating to how I feel, can you please give me some advice on how to approach the arena of dating after 40 and years of bad love.